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Monday, June 11, 2012

Knots of a Chain..


It was Riya’s first Durga Pooja after marriage. She was excited and anxious all at the same time. She had gone along with her husband, Subhro, to her in-laws’ place in Delhi to celebrate this festival. Little did she know what was to transpire?

Riya wasn’t much of a favourite with her in-laws which really wasn’t much of a surprise considering she was Subhro’s choice and not his parents’. Any opportunity to humiliate her would be seized with vicious accuracy by them. If it wasn’t for Subhro their one and only son, they wouldn’t have in the first place let her enter their household even. Ten months had passed by since Riya and Subhro had been married but not a week had gone by without Riya being subjected to bitter words from them. But in all this it was Subhro’s faith in Riya that got her through and was her silver lining. Their bond was strong and no matter how much effort his parents put in breaking that, their love always came out on top.

Riya was a girl of today; educated and independent. She wasn’t one to take blows without retorting. However infront of Subhro’s parents she had to keep quiet as no matter what they did or said at the end of the day they were his parents. Well isn’t it the story around households? A daughter-in-law has to keep quiet and suffer in silence in the name of respect for elders and such system of beliefs?

Read more here:http://theyouthexpress.com/knots-of-a-chain/

Posted by Nabanita at 8:29 PM
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  1. A great post Naba ... i agree for a relation to work faith is an imp factor... but I firmly believe theres factors other than faith which are equally imp..like respect, freedom.... and its a combition of all these that make a relation successful.

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    1. true..those are important as well.. :)

      Thanks !

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  2. Thanks for such a nice post, Naba. But the truth is you are not able to find guys like Subhro that frequently. He could have been better... But its a cruel truth of our society that girls are destined to suffer... Hope their better halves understand them, trust them and support them...

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    1. True Sneha...All girls have is the hope sometimes...

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  3. Excellent post. It is unfortunate but it's also very real and it happens almost everyday.

    All we need is that one person who's by our side through thick and thin and you have managed to show just that and turn this story into a happy ending.

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  4. True it is story around .. as the person on the show Satyamev jayate said , maybe we need to change , we shud stop respecting elders but instead Respect their actions ..

    Sad state though the same parents want their own daughter to be the queen in her in-laws house

    Bikram's

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    1. Agree to each word you've written Bikramjit!

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  5. Elders are supposed to be sensible people. Clearly, in this story, they are not even their own son's well wishers and display nothing but immaturity and stupidity. They have not behaved like responsible elders. Age alone does not create grounds for respect or deference, it is one's deeds and level of maturity.

    In such cases, it is up to the son to draw a line firmly and ensure that petty minded in-laws do not sabotage his marriage. And who says the girl has to suffer in silence? These days, most parents bring up their daughters with the same love, effort and dedication that they bestow on their sons... for what? To suffer in stupid in-laws' homes?

    Well written, though, Naba :) hope it makes a dent on spineless sons who are unable to stand up for their wives and their marriage when there is real shit happening.

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  6. loved the way you write, but somehow could not accept the way the wife accepted the way the husband acted
    :-)

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    1. It took me time too to pen down the end...

      Thanks :)

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  7. Again a great post...
    www.rajnishonline.blogspot.com

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  10. Life becomes so different when a girl gets married. As you said, the boy too has to play the balancing act. Its all a game at the end of the day. I say, just keep a low profile. Like; ha mummy ji, aap sahi kahti hai..and play along.

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    1. True Shalu... that's the only way out sometimes of such situations..

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  11. Loved the way u wrote......but I m 21, unmarried and i feel I would have left him for the way he reacted, I would have burned with angst, had someone asked me to show my bags........
    May be thats why I m scared of marriages.....:-(

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    1. Don't worry Priya...There are some great guys around too and when you meet him, all these problems will be like cake walk n you will still have your happily ever after !! :)

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  12. Found your blog on IndiBlogger.......really liked it.....
    following you from now on.....if you like my blog, do follow me back......

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    1. Thanks Tanmayee... Followed you on your facebook page :)

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  14. Very interesting story..was just wondering If the chain was not found then?
    Totally agree with you men also have to adjust after marriage and balancing wife, inlaws and parents esp. in love marriage is a tough act!

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    1. Yes indeed it's not easy for men too...

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  15. So true--been there,done that.Thankfully they mellow down or maybe tire after a few years.

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    1. Ya Indu.. I guess sometimes patience is the key and we girls seem to have that in abundance!

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  16. In this situation the girl must tackle it diplomatically and should have the patience to swallow the initial humiliations. Time and situation shall definitely come when she with a little effort may win their heart. In this case protest shall come when cornered on a blind lane.

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    1. Yes that's what most girls try to do I guess..very rightly said Pradip..

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  17. Hi Nabanita

    Your love penning tales about relationships, that's clear.

    This little story of misunderstandings and loyalties is played out often in our society; you have said it well.

    The way you have sketched out Riya and Subhro it seems you know them personally.

    Regards

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  18. Hi Naba, after reading the complete story I realized that the boy suffers as much as the girl through the entire transition.. It takes several years for any girl to gain trust and respect from in-laws. Loved the story I can very well imagine the pain and humiliation in the beginning and the happiness Riya felt in the end of the story :)

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  19. Hi Nabanita, It looks like my comments are not appearing on your blog. Did you get my comment?

    Thanks.
    Jiya

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  20. Hi Nabanita,

    It's such a nice post.. so touching and so true.. makes me feel that I was a spectator of all the events.. I agree with you, it's tough for men to balance..but it's very painful for that girl..

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    1. Thanks Sayoni...I'm glad that you liked it :)

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  21. a great post!!!

    www.styledestino.blogspot.com

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  22. I liked the story and the flow but I disagree with most of the comments that talk of diplomacy or adjustment. If the guy's parents are accusing his wife then is it not a question mark on the guy's choice for a life partner?

    Though my reactions would have been different as a man, I don't think many would think it to be possible but its just a choice of reactions and responses when dealing with anyone in the world, including family.

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