When was the first time an elder sat you
down and talked about the dos and don’ts of sex? When was the first time
someone that you look up to educated you about the options available for safe
sex? Infact leave that when was the first time somebody told you about how
babies are born? I am sure never and no-one.
It is usually through the half baked truths
from our peers or searches on the net that the youth of our country get
educated in this department. Yes that’s what happens in our country; where we
are made to switch channels or look the other way even if there is a scene
where the hero kisses even the cheeks of the heroine. We are too shy to even
pronounce ‘sex’ out loud let alone discuss about it. Sex Education is close to
nil in India; one of the many reasons for AIDs raising its head alarmingly in
the country. Strange thing is even the doctors find it weird to discuss and
enlighten you about it.
I had a friend who was about to get married
and she visited a gynecologist just to make sure she leart about all the
methods of contraception at hand from a specialist so that she wouldn’t have to
rely on the net or her friends. The doctor declined to tell her anything until
she showed her the wedding card confirming her soon to be marriage! Preposterous
isn’t it! Well that’s one of the many faces of India for you!
In a conservative and morally uptight
society like ours anything related to sex is frowned upon. In a country where discussing
Sex is a taboo; here comes an author, Ankit Uttam, who writes a novel titled
’Thirty year old Virgin’. Well if that isn’t bold then I wonder what is. He
surely deserves kudos for his attempt and no the book isn’t about sex
education. Indian authors usually have avoided this territory intentionally for
ages barring a select few; which is strange but it wouldn’t be wrong to say
that Ankit has successfully broken out of that mold.
’Thirty
year old Virgin’ is a love story set in young urban
India. Ambition, sex and love; the book has a hearty combination of all three. Essentially
a love story; it is fast paced which is good as I am not a fan of slow paced
novels. The story moves through different phases of lives of the protagonists,
Arnav and Maya. Their love–hate relationship takes you through the book with
sex being the catalyst. There is no particular character that will win your
heart; as a matter of fact they are not meant to. Probably that’s good as none
of them are portrayed as perfect just as anyone would be in real life. Another
fact that I really like about this book is no grammatical mistakes! I have read
a few books recently and they murdered the whole notion of editing and proof
reading; which is a very big put off.
The narration is good but at times vague. The
first few pages for instance will confuse you but it is perhaps Ankit setting
the tone for the rest of the novel. Maya’s escapades are sometimes slightly
farfetched and over the top; for instance the adventures with Ronnie in the
car. It goes on for quite a number of pages too making you wish for it to end
and the story to move forward.
The story is about sex; about love; the
male protagonist is an entrepreneur whose company sells Condoms; so I do not
really find a relevant relation of the title to the story unless it was a
deliberate attempt by the author to garner curiosity; in which case I think he
has been really successful.
The writing style of Ankit is commendable;
he has a hold on the language. Unlike many new authors that I have read
recently; Ankit has never for a moment massacred the English language. He has
also not made any ridiculous attempts to sound cool by mixing Hindi and English
together in the book.
To fairly conclude; the book is surely worth
a read as it dwells upon the subject of whether two people can have sex with no
strings attached. Read for yourself to find out.
Happy Reading!





I like the opening passages of your post.
ReplyDeleteTrue! I never got any input from my dad, nor did I pass on much info to my son. We just pick it up along the way. And that isn't good.
Nice review too. May not rush to read the book though. :)
Cheers!
Thanks Jayadev :)
DeleteInteresting post. Should be mandatory in schools here, but need the bigwigs of India to first say the word SEX without grimacing. :D
ReplyDeleteTrue !
DeleteI like the way you projected the theme of the book into a moral story. Good review, for sure.
ReplyDeleteThanks Umashankar !
DeleteWell, even The Ramayana taught us that women had to eat kheer to get pregnant. hahaha.
ReplyDeleteWell written. Gonna have to read this book soon. :)
Thanks Mani!
DeletePart Book Review and part post on the relevant topic of sex education. Coming from a generation that did not even have the Internet as a fall-back option, I fully second your vociferous views on the need for sex education in the land of the Kama Sutra.
ReplyDeleteThanks Suresh!
DeleteSay the word aloud and there would be a pandemonium with everyone screaming about culture and 'sanskar' in the land of kamasutra ! Nice review
ReplyDeleteHow true Jaish...!!
DeleteThanks!
nice review
ReplyDeleteThanks Samaresh!
DeleteIn our country we rather banned sex and driven it to rude and rough corner of reproduction and only as an urge of the hormone flood in the body not the call of emotions. Time passed by, the next advanced generation came but even now this wicked philosophy is very much respected. I have not heard about this book, nor I do not know who is the publisher. May be a search in flipkart is required but possibly the best thing would if you may kindly name the publisher and where it is available. Loved your review anyway
ReplyDeleteThanks Pradip...The Publisher is General Press and you could find it at flipkart ...
DeleteNice review. Will read this book for sure.
ReplyDeleteThanks Namrata!
DeletePeople here follow the ostrich approach to sex... hide your head in a hole in the ground, and hope the "evil" around you will disappear! Time for change, or what? :/
ReplyDeleteIndeed Ash!
DeleteI haven't found any of these new writers good in terms of the language, which includes the Big Daddy "Chetan Bhagat". But they sell, thanks to our own way of handling English and creating a sub version of it wherever possible. I loved the way you wanted to talk about a very contemporary topic through a book review and I am sure you will be successful in passing on the message
ReplyDeleteThanks Arnab!
DeleteYes, I will buy and read it. The concept and the title aroused my curiosity. Moreover you said, no grammatical mistakes - and that is a huge incentive to read the book
ReplyDeleteLet me know about your views on the book!
DeleteBravo!
ReplyDeleteThanks!
DeleteNice review...I am planning the buy the book
ReplyDeleteThanks Shamsud...Let me know about your views on the book!
DeleteWhen was the first time an elder sat you down and talked about the dos and don’ts of sex?
ReplyDeleteNever !
I loved the review ... you have brought out the + and - of the book quite well. Prob a few years back I would have run to get hold of the book. But definitely if I get a chance i would read it .
Thanks :)
DeleteIf you do read it let me know your views about it!
Nicely written, Yes, we are still quite conservative in these matters though we profess to me modern
ReplyDeleteThanks Vikram...
DeleteGood review...though may not read the book!
ReplyDeleteThanks...
DeleteThat's a pretty good review. You touched on all points in a very easy way. Nice. :)
ReplyDeleteThanks...:)
Deletei was planning to buy this book with bold subject, now after reading your review surely will for at least appreciation for Ankit Uttam to write about such a subject when other writes is following the IIT/IIM theory...
ReplyDeleteLet me know your views on the book too after reading Chandrakant..
DeleteVery well written
ReplyDeleteThanks Shilpi !
Deletethankfully we had sex education in our school! Medicine taught me more!
ReplyDeleteI would surely read this book. Nice review
Let me know if you like it Varsha..
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